Who do you talk to when you need advice? Is it your parents? Siblings? Spouse or close friends?
Many times, we seek advice from those nearest and dearest to us. We take their advice because we trust them and they know us.
But are they the most qualified? Do we take the advice from people who shouldn’t be giving advice in the first place? Are we getting advice about business, finances, relationships, wealth and success from the wrong people?
Just because they are good friends or family doesn’t mean they are best qualified to help us.
- Do you take relationship advice from someone who can’t maintain a stable, healthy relationship themselves?
- Are you getting money advice from someone who is living check to check or is a poor saver?
- Do you receive health and fitness advice from someone who has major health issues of their own?
- Do you want to start a business, but receive counsel from someone who has never tried to start a business?
People Mean Well, But…
In many instances, people give you advice with good intentions. They are trying to give you the best advice they know. Our parents are a good example: they want to see us successful, but they also don’t want to see us get hurt.
In other words, they mean well. but it may not be the best advice for you. The advice they give is based on their own perspectives. There’s nothing wrong with that, but they may not be able to imagine or envision what you’re trying to do. They simply can’t see it actually working.
On December 17, 1903, brothers Orville and Wilbur Wright created the Wright Flyer, the first motorized airplane. We take flying for granted today, but can you imagine their family and friends telling them they were insane for trying to invent such a thing in 1903?
If a person can’t comprehend what you’re trying to do, they may tell you to stop wasting your time. The advice they give is based on what they might do in that situation. In other words, you can listen to their advice, but you don’t have to take it.
What does your gut say? Trust your gut!
Are They Helping or Hurting?
While some people mean well, others may be uncomfortable with your goals and lofty ambitions. In their eyes, your success will amplify their failures. They might suffer from the crabs in the barrel mentality: they’d rather bring you down to where they are instead of elevating and inspiring you to reach your goals.
These individuals will come off as being supportive and looking out for your best interests, but deep down, they want you to fail.
This Includes the Media
The media can also give us advice that isn’t in our best interests. Every day, we are bombarded with a steady supply of negativity by mainstream news. We are constantly told about the problems, but few solutions are given. In addition, the algorithms feed us topics we appear to have to most interest in, totally ignoring other points of view.
By constantly hearing one viewpoint, we may start to believe our way of thinking is the right or only way to think, and anyone who has an opposing view is wrong.
This can stunt our growth intellectually and make us resistant to new ideas that could be beneficial.
Time to Believe in Yourself
At some point, you will have to stand on your own two feet. One day, you will receive advice from someone you trust, but that advice will not be what you want to hear. What should you do? Look deep inside yourself for the answer.
There are many ways to gain self-confidence and go after your dreams. Some people read motivational quotes and recite positive affirmations. Others create vision boards and visualize the success they are looking for. Others simply ignore the naysayers and soldier on without the support of their friends and family.
These are all great ways to achieve your goals. They can even be used together to make a powerful combination. For me, one of the best ways to gain confidence and go after your dreams is by studying those who are already successful. I love to read about people who overcame the odds to achieve greatness. For example, Michael Jordan was CUT from his high school basketball team. Instead of letting that stop him, he worked that much harder. After YEARS of hard work and dedication, he is now considered by many the Greatest of All Time (GOAT).
This story should resonate with people all over the world. At one time, Jordan himself was considered not good enough. if he can succeed against the odds, what’s stopping the rest of us?
No matter who you are, there is someone out there who has overcome similar obstacles and achieved greatness. If they can do it, so can you. Read their stories, find out what they did and how they did it. Don’t reinvent the wheel follow the path to greatness forged by those who can before you.
Call To Action
Not everyone will believe in you, and that’s OK. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but what do YOU think? The only opinion that truly matters is yours. This is your life, and you must live it. It’s time to start believing in yourself.
Mistakes will happen, and you will learn valuable lessons along the way, but the key is to learn from your miscues and continue pushing forward. If life was easy, everyone would be successful, but we know that’s not the case. Surround yourself with people who have the same goals and aspirations as you. Birds of a feather DO flock together…
It’s critical you believe in yourself. Even if those around you aren’t supportive of your hopes and dreams, you must believe you can do it even if no one else does. Self confidence is key. The more you believe in yourself, the greater probability of your success. Wherever the mind goes, the body will follow. But first, you must believe!
Success doesn’t just happen. You must make the conscious decision to set lofty goals and go after them with all you’ve got. A strong body and strong mind are essential. Pick up a copy of my books Success Principles 101: A Step By Step Guide on Setting and Achieving Your Goals, and The Three Pillars of Strength: Increasing Your Physical, Mental and Spiritual Fitness. Both available in eBook, paperback, and audible versions.
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